Peace Is Only A Breath Away

We’re all different, and when the place we live in doesn’t support those differences, it’s easy to feel unaccepted or like we’re doing something wrong. That can lead us to pull away, lose interest, or even reject our environment altogether and become resentful.

For example, some people may view opposite-sex relationships as “normal” and may not accept same-sex relationships because they can’t lead to biological children. Physical appearance can also cause challenges—things like weight, skin tone, gender, or cultural background can make some people feel judged or out of place.

We can’t control everything about the world around us, but we can learn to control our inner world. Our inner world includes our thoughts, feelings, emotions, memories, imagination, and how we see ourselves. Sometimes, outside influences shape our beliefs without us even realizing it. To begin changing that influence from the inside out, we have to learn how to relax and reset.

One simple way to relax is to find a quiet place where you can be alone for just five minutes. For many people, the restroom is a surprisingly good option—most people won’t bother you for a few minutes.

Once you’re alone, stand or sit in a comfortable position. Take a slow breath in for two seconds, then exhale for two seconds. Repeat this three times. Focus on your breathing and how your body feels. As you exhale, imagine you’re letting go of some of the heaviness you’ve been carrying. Then return to normal breathing and stay present in the moment. Relax for about three minutes, then continue your day.

You can do this anytime you feel overwhelmed, stressed, irritated, or when you just need a moment to think clearly. If it helps, set a timer on your phone—especially if you already bring your phone with you.